Have you ever been frustrated, but weren’t sure why? If so, it’s possible that it might be due to your expectations. Many times our frustrations and linked to the expectations that we bring to the table. Because if we have some, and they don’t get met, it’s easy to grow frustrated.
When this happens, it’s helpful to consider whether we had proper expectations to begin with? Did they actually line up with reality?
For instance, if I join a co-ed recreational sports league, I shouldn’t be surprised if the play isn’t super competitive. So if I get frustrated at the level of play, perhaps I should rethink my original expectations—maybe I was really desiring something more than could actually be delivered.
The same kind of dynamics can take place in so many situations and relationships that we have throughout life. And although there may be different of reasons for feeling frustrated, if it’s rooted in unrealistic expectations, at least that’s something we can control. But this takes being honest with ourselves about the situation, and then setting appropriate expectations.
The good news is that in doing this—in setting our expectations based on the reality of the situation—we’re freed up to embrace the moment we have in front of us, instead of feeling upset that it didn’t go the way we originally planned.